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LinkedIn tells you not to invite people you don’t know, but they don’t make the punishment clear, and it’s harsh.  If 5 people say they don’t know you, you get blacklisted, and you can no longer invite people by name.

Others have written about that part, and I will write about it in the future, but in this post, I’m going to address something no one has written about – how do you find out WHO said “I don’t know this user” to your invitation.  Update – LinkedIn removed this feature, so it no longer works.


If you send an invitation to someone on LinkedIn, they have the option to Accept, Archive, or say “I don’t know this user”.  If just 5 people say “I don’t know this user”, you are put on the LinkedIn blacklist, and LinkedIn won’t make that clear to you.  Instead, you would be asked for an email address every time you want to invite someone in the future, which is particularly annoying when you’re trying to get in touch with

  • college friends
  • high school friends
  • childhood friends
  • sales contacts

or anyone else you haven’t seen in a few years.

Here’s how you find out who IDKed you, i.e., who said “I don’t know this user”.  This just changed in mid-March 2009, and became more difficult, but I have a clever, cutting edge solution.

  • This no longer works, but if you see a new solution, let me know
  • Go to your LinkedIn home page
  • Expand the Inbox on the left (if it isn’t expanded) by clicking on the plus sign box
  • Click Sent
  • On the Inbox Sent page, click Status in the upper right to see the Invitations that you’ve sent
  • Now you want to look for the status “Doesn’t Know”, but it will be in alphabetical order in the middle of the following:
  • Accepted
  • Bounced
  • Doesn’t Know
  • Expired
  • In Progress
  • Pending
  • Replaced
  • Sent
  • At the bottom of that page, it will say

Page 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 …60

but it no longer lets you click directly on page 27, and the “Doesn’t Know” section is usually about 40-50% of the way in

  • Here’s the clever trick
  • Click on the number 2 to get to page 2
  • Then instead of clicking numbers constantly until you get to 27
  • Go to the URL in your address box (i.e. where it says
  • At the end it will say split_page=2
  • Change the 2 to a 27, or whatever page you want to guess
  • Go higher or lower if you have to find the “Doesn’t know” invitations
  • Now go find the people and beat them with a stick
  • Then I’ll give you the names of the people that IDKed me, and you can beat them with the same stick
  • Supposedly, if you get them to invite you, it eliminates the IDK, but I’ve seen at least one case where this didn’t happen.

In fairness, it’s not entirely the other person’s fault.  LinkedIn doesn’t tell anyone the severity of an IDK, or the effect that it can have on others.

I will do more on this later, but this answers a question I hear regularly in my LinkedIn seminars.  Now you can at least if somebody IDKs you, you can find the culprit.


  • If you have been put on the IDK list multiple times, and LinkedIn won’t let you out of it, email me at the contact email address at the bottom of the page and I’ll tell you how to get around the problem.  Make sure you put “IDK solution” in the subject line

In a future post

  • What to do if you want to invite people you don’t know
  • My rant on the whole  IDK issue
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3 Mark Berman { 08.15.12 at 12:43 am }

I have been put on the IDK list multiple times (twice), and LinkedIn won’t let you out of it, One time they reset it for me, but I am interested to see how many times they will reset it or what you suggest. Your article listed email me at the contact email address at the bottom of the page and I’ll tell you how to get around the problem. Thank you very much for your time. Have a great day!
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22 Fred S { 09.10.13 at 3:58 am }

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23 Jane { 10.04.13 at 9:11 pm }

“IDK solution” When I tried to send out an invitation to a friend, I got warning that I am going to reach the threshold of “IDK” by sending out this one if this person says “IDK”. Is there a way to solve the problem? Thanks a lot. Jane

24 Jane { 10.04.13 at 9:12 pm }

“IDK solution” When I tried to send out an invitation to a friend, I got warning that I am going to reach the threshold of “IDK” by sending out this one if this person says “IDK”. Is there a way to solve the problem? Thanks a lot. Jane

25 Cami { 10.12.13 at 4:39 pm }

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28 Rachel { 01.26.14 at 11:36 am }

Alternatively, you could just stop inviting people you don’t know. Or pay LinkedIn for a premium account, and they’ll let you spam whomever you like. Because really, you know, they don’t care if you do that, provided they’re making money out of it.

29 Patrick O'Malley (@617patrick) { 01.27.14 at 4:26 pm }


True, but some people just forget that they know you. With a premium account, you’re only allowed to send 3 (actually 12-30, depending on how clever you are) InMails a month to people you don’t know.

30 Chao { 02.24.14 at 12:24 am }

May I have your IDK Solution please. Thanks.

31 Chao { 02.24.14 at 12:25 am }

May I have your IDK Solution please. Many thanks.

32 Tim { 02.25.14 at 4:05 pm }

Please send me the IDK solution. Cheers!

33 Garrett { 03.19.14 at 5:46 pm }

Hello Patrick!
I have restricted for the 3rd time for IDK’s, could you please send me any info you may have which could unrestrict me?
Thank you very much, you are the best!

34 Jamie { 07.21.14 at 10:49 am }

Please send me the idk solution thanks!

35 koenos { 07.30.14 at 4:10 pm }

Dear Patrick, could you please send me your IDK solution?
Many thanks in advance

36 Dubya { 07.31.14 at 7:04 am }

Hi Patrick, would appreciate any help you can give on how to get off the IDK list. Thanks

37 Subas { 08.02.14 at 4:28 am }

Hi Patrick,

Please help me too with your IDK solution! Thanks!

38 Gail Klepfisz { 10.08.14 at 5:40 pm }

please help me with my IDK issue with LinkedIn

39 Natasha Barr { 11.12.14 at 8:42 am }

Hi Patrick,
Can you let me know who I co about seeing how many people have IDK me to date?
Many thanks,


40 fredrich { 12.11.14 at 12:10 am }

IDK Solution Please

41 Tushar { 03.16.15 at 12:39 pm }

Greetings Patrick:

I invited bunch of people last couple weeks and I am not sure how many people IDK me. I got restriction by Linked in and I can not invite any more people. Can you please send me solution how do I fix the issue. I really appreciate your help!

Thanks in advance

42 Brother Tony O { 04.21.15 at 7:21 am }

Here is the present solution to finding out the status of your invitation (courtesy of @stacyzapar):
Go to your Inbox | Sent messages; select Invitations from the dropdown arrow that’s above the listed messages; find the invitation you’re concerned about and click it to open it up. You should see two buttons, Resend and Withdraw, if they haven’t responded to your invite. If both are missing, it could mean three things: 1 – they accepted it, 2 – you withdrew it already, 3 – they marked it as spam/IDK. Finally, if only the Resend button is missing, that means they’ve archived your invitation and the only penalty against you is you’ve lost one from your 3000 invite limit.

43 Solomia { 05.12.16 at 3:26 am }

Dear Patrick, could you please send me your IDK solution?

Thank you very much!

44 akshay { 06.19.16 at 3:01 pm }

Dear Patrick, could you please send me your IDK solution?

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45 Roger Nelson { 07.14.16 at 10:12 pm }

Hi Patrick, could you please send me your IDK solution?

Thank you!

46 David Cooper { 08.16.16 at 4:39 am }

Hi Patrick great article
Could you please send me the IDK Solution
Many thanks!

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